I start making adjustments.
Not the kind that announce themselves. Not the kind that require meetings or explanations or a shift in tone that other people can point to and name later, cataloging the moment things changed. These are quieter than that. Structural. Internal. The kind of changes that look like logistics on the surface and feel like boundary work underneath, invisible unless you know exactly where to look.
Separate schedules.
I stagger meetings where I can. Not to avoid overlap entirely, not to create distance for its own sake, but to reduce unnecessary friction. Fewer shared check-ins that blur responsibility. Clearer ownership of time blocks that begin and end cleanly. I stop defaulting to joint availability just because it’s efficient on paper. Efficiency has a way of fla
